Can it be saved? Can we restore what we had? Just a little ranting.
It’s sad when you fall in love with somebody and you think that they’re going to be your end game. Next thing you know you’re married, you have kids, you think that they love you but they really don’t they’re only around to keep the kids happy.
And you realize that your relationship is falling apart. How long do you go? How long do you stay? Do you stay to make your kids happy? Even when your relationship has turned into you just have a roommate. You no longer sleep in the same bed. You no longer kiss each other good night. It’s a hurtful feeling. You think, can it be saved? Can it be fixed? Can we feel that love and that passion we once had? Or is this what marriage is all about? You grow old together. You grow distant. You stop touching each other. You no longer do things together. You don’t even offer each other a hug. Family things turn into sitting by a fire all by yourself. Your kids are happy and that’s what matters most to you, right? Then you think I long for some intimacy and I don’t mean sex. I mean sitting on the couch together, your hand on each other’s leg, cuddling, walking by touching his shoulder doing something more than just saying I love you. Good night. Then go to your separate rooms to sleep.
Can you put your trust in somebody? You care about them. You’re trying your hardest make sure that they’re happy and that they’re well. To realize that, that person that you love and care for so much, betrays you. They take your trust for granted. When you find out that they’ve been lying about you to whoever all along, their own family. It hurts. It really really hurts. Is your relationship savable? Can you gain back the trust, the love, the connection?
That I’m not sure of. It’s a two-way street and I was once told, you can’t control everything around you.